The A-R-C Technique For Dealing With Toxic People In Your Life

3 easy questions that will change how you deal with negative people and situations

Victor Mong
5 min readMar 10, 2022


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“There have been people put on this earth to push your buttons, tick you off, and suck the life out of you. You know who they are.” — Marsha Petrie

You probably can think of that one person or more who appear to make it their full-time job to drain your energy and make your life a living hell?

Toxic vampires!

They’re everywhere and around you at home, school, workplace, or neighborhood.

84% of women and 75% of men say they’ve had to deal with a life-sucking vampire-friend at some point.

Across the United States, 75% of people say their boss is the most stressful part of their day.

Being around a toxic person is total nightmare. It can stress you out, raise your high blood pressure, and get you depressed.

All they do is complain, gossip, and judge. Their pessimism can make you question your own capabilities and sanity?

You’ve probably said to yourself:

“She makes me so angry!”

“Who does he thinks he is?”

“She really ticks me off!”

You may not realize it, but when you speak these words, you’re essentially admitting that the other person knows your button and they can control you as they want.

But, you don’t need that negativity.

Preserving your mental health around poisonous individuals and situations requires you to have a grip on survival skills.

The “ARC Technique”

One of the most important lessons I’ve learned is that in every situation, including toxic ones, you and I always have a choice in how we deal with it.

If you feel you’re stuck in a toxic relationship or environment and don’t know what to do or where to turn, it’s likely because you’re not asking yourself the right questions.

And the main reason for this is fear. You’re concerned that you won’t be able to find another partner. You’re afraid that if you…



Victor Mong

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