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How to Win Back the Trust You Lost
7 practical steps to restore confidence in your relationships.
Trust is not a transaction; it’s an intimate psychological contract rooted in vulnerability.
When you break someone’s trust, what you shatter isn’t just their faith in you but also their sense of safety and belief in their ability to judge character.
Regaining that trust often requires a psychological transformation in the person you hurt—a process that involves reshaping how they perceive you and the relationship.
How do you do that?
Here are seven strategies you can use to rebuild trust with someone you’ve wronged:
Expose a Bigger Truth About Yourself
When trust is broken, the instinct to minimize damage often leads people to hide their flaws.
Ironically, this creates an illusion of perfection that only deepens mistrust.
One of the most effective ways to win back someone’s trust is by revealing a deeper, more vulnerable truth about yourself — something that provides context for your mistake without excusing it.
For instance, if you lied to someone, don’t just admit the lie. Go deeper and explain the root cause of your dishonesty…
