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6 Shocking Reasons Someone Who Loves You May Still Abuse You
Abuse in relationships doesn’t just come from people who don’t care about you; sometimes, even someone who loves you can end up causing harm. Here are six surprising reasons why someone can be in love with you but resort to behaviors that are manipulative and unhealthy.
When They’re in Love with You Because They’re Afraid No One Else Will Love Them
Sometimes, love can come from a place of deep fear. Fear of being alone. Fear of never finding someone else.
When someone loves you not because of who you are, but because they fear they won’t find anyone else who will love them, it can become dangerous for both of you.
The thought of losing you triggers an intense fear of abandonment, which makes them cling to the relationship, not because they’re happy, but because they’re scared that, without you, they’ll be alone forever.
This leads to an unhealthy attachment based on dependency, where they see you as a possession rather than as a person.
If you’re in a relationship with such a person, they always want to know where you are, who you’re talking to, or if you still care about them as much as they care about you.
