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6 Harsh Truths That Prove It’s Never Your Fault If Your Partner Still Misses Their Ex
They’re using you as a band-aid.
For too long, many people have blamed themselves when their partner still has feelings for an ex. But sometimes, it’s not about you.
It’s not about what you did, didn’t do, or could have done better.
Instead of trying to fix something that’s not yours to fix, maybe it’s time to face the truth, see things as they are, and walk away with your respect intact.
They’re Searching for What They’ve Already Lost
When someone can’t let go of their ex, it’s often not about the ex themselves but about the version of themselves they lost in the relationship — the version that felt happy, in love, or complete.
They’re not chasing the person but the feelings tied to that time: security, joy, and being wanted.
The end of a relationship can leave someone feeling hollow, and instead of addressing it internally, they cling to the past, hoping to fill the void.
This is emotional scavenging where they think about their ex, not because the person was perfect, but because that time in their life felt “right” or easier. In their mind, their ex represents the life…
