5 Things People Constantly Mistake For Low Self-Esteem

Victor Mong
6 min readNov 14, 2023
Photo by Alexander Yuhchenko on Unsplash

Self-esteem is a critical trait that defines how we interact with ourselves and others. Each one of us operates either on a higher or low level of the spectrum.

People who are at the higher level tend to have a strong sense of self, while those at the lower level often believe they’re not good enough. They think they’re unworthy of love, success, or good things.

This usually reflects not just in how they handle themselves but also in the way they relate with others.

Unfortunately, when it comes to behaviors people associate with feeling of low self-esteem, many people make a lot of mistakes.

They misinterpret certain actions and attribute them to feelings of inadequacy.

Here are five such behaviors that may seem to portray low self-esteem but take a lot courage to do.

1. Humility

Most people associate outward displays of pride and bravado with strength and confidence.

If you’re always in people’s faces, bragging about your strengths and achievements, and want everyone to know how amazing you are, many people will tend to see you as a confident person.

Not surprisingly, many people misconstrue humility as a sign of low self-esteem but nothing can be farther from the truth.

Humility has nothing to do with low self-esteem. On the contrary, it’s the ability to be honest about your strengths and weaknesses and to see yourself objectively.

Humble people don’t shy away from talking about themselves or about their achievements. They just happen to do so with modesty and genuine consideration for the feelings of others.

They don’t belittle or make others feel worthless by trying to portray themselves as perfect or without flaws. They recognize the good in others and are not afraid to give credit where it is due.

It takes a lot of self-awareness to be humble.

You know that even though you have your strengths, you also have your weaknesses just like everyone else. This awareness allows you to navigate interactions with others politely and respectfully.



Victor Mong

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