11 Disturbing Red Flags People Only See in Others, Except Themselves

You think only others have them but not you.

Victor Mong
8 min readOct 3, 2024
Photo by Lui Peng on Unsplash

Humans possess a remarkable capacity for self-deception. We’re so good at spotting flaws in others, but when it comes to recognizing those same traits in ourselves, we fall woefully short.

It’s not because we’re inherently dishonest, but because our brains are wired to protect our self-image. There’s a discomfort in facing what lurks beneath the surface

As philosopher Søren Kierkegaard aptly put it:

“There are two ways to be fooled. One is to believe what isn’t true; the other is to refuse to believe what is true.”

In this article, I’ll be sharing some of the disturbing red flags I’ve seen that people mostly notice in others but fail to recognize in themselves.

The Need to Always Be Right

The need to always be right stems from an inflated sense of self-importance, where people cling tightly to their opinions and beliefs, often dismissing others’ perspectives.

When we see others doing this, we label them as stubborn, arrogant, and unyielding because they insist they’re correct at all costs.

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Victor Mong
Victor Mong

Written by Victor Mong

I write about human potential, building a life you want & mastering your mind || info.victormong@gmail.com

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